Monday, February 9, 2015

20 Things I Wish I'd Learned Before I Hit 20

When I was in high school, my parents, older siblings, and cousins would give me advice and I would blow it off and think they couldn't possibly understand. But looking back, I couldn't have been more wrong. I find myself talking to younger girls about things that they face, giving the same advice that I once heard and blew off. The whole time I'm talking about my past experiences and trying to help them I'm thinking, LISTEN! WHY DON'T YOU UNDERSTAND?!
There are so many things I wish I would've known in my teenage years, so many things I wish I could make teenagers believe now. 

1. Eat the burger. 
I think we (girls mostly) get so caught up in not only watching our weight, but in other people watching what we eat. I don't think you should ever let yourself be unsatisfied in what you eat, especially when you're paying for your meal. If you want a salad, eat a salad. If you want steak, get steak. If you want a burger, eat the burger! 

2. Keep your online life clean. 
In this age of social media, everyone
checks your Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. Everyone includes family, friends, future employers, and anyone you meet ever. What's on your account will leave a lasting impression about you. Keep it clean and watch what other people put on it. 

3. Your wardrobe should say a little bit about you. 
Whether you love animal prints, neon colors, or fur, your clothes should reflect that. Don't buy the newest fad just because your BFF has one just like it. Personally, I like more modest, neutral clothing. But hey, if you like to step out with a bang, you do your #ootd thang! 

4. Siblings will be your best life-long friends. 
I really wish I'd learned this sooner. But your brothers and sisters will always love you no matter what, even if they don't act like it. Keep them in your life, and give them reason to keep you in their's. 

5. Dad scares off the boys for a reason.
To be honest, this wasn't too much of an issue for me. But my dad is an intimidating looking guy, a teddy bear really though. Let's just say he scared off a good bit of not-so-good-news guys that were interested in my sister. We're all thankful for that. Dads look out for their little girls, it's their job. Let them do their job.

6. Mom may not be perfect, but she has your best interest at heart. 
My mom and I haven't always had the best relationship, but I'm so glad we're where we are now. I love my mom and should have listened to her when she told me that the boy that I was so in love with when I was fifteen wouldn't matter a year later, or that my happiness was most important, or to chose my friends more wisely. Moms know what's best for their kids, listen! 

7. Relationships do not define you. 
It doesn't matter how many followers you have, how many texts you get a day, or how many boyfriends/girlfriends you have. What matters are the memories and connections that you make. Don't base your happiness on how many people you think are your friends. 

8. High school is a bump in the road. 
While high school should be taken seriously because it's what colleges look at when considering you, it won't really matter after you graduate. It's fun when you're in clubs and pageants and running for homecoming queen, but that stuff shouldn't be taken too seriously. I'm not knocking having fun high school, but high school shouldn't define you either. Everyone I knew, myself included, were members of clubs, I competed in the high school pageant, and some of my best friends ran for homecoming queen. Those are great memories to have, but once you're graduated, the events themselves and the stress they caused you won't mean anything. 

9. You should have at least one friend that you can tell anything to. 
There should be one person in your life that you can go to about anything. Once you find that person, or people if you're lucky, KEEP THEM. Let them know often that you trust them and that they can trust you. People like that are hard to find. 

10. Never do something just to impress someone else. 
Do things that not only better you, but bring God glory. No one else. That simple. 

11. It is okay if not everyone likes you. 
You can be the sweetest peach on earth and there's going to be someone out there that just doesn't like peaches. You can't please everyone. This is something that I struggle with to this day. Remember #10, it's not about other people. It's about you and God. 

12. It is okay to say no. 
I struggle with this one as well. Especially when I think it's something that is good. 
You should always say no if it's bad or could bring you harm. But sometimes we feel obligated to say yes to every favor. More often than not we barely have time for these favors. That's okay! It is okay to say no! 

13. Always keep your boundaries. 
Stand your ground. Always. There is a lot of regret in knowing that you did something you didn't want to do all because you couldn't say anything. 

14. Stand up for yourself. Always. 
It is perfectly acceptable to tell someone if they're hurting you in some way. In the long run, you'll earn respect and keep your dignity. 

15. Learn when to walk away. 
There are going to be plenty of times when you need to throw in the towel. Some things just aren't worth the pain. And that's okay. It doesn't make you weak. It takes a lot of courage and strength to know when you've had enough, and even more to admit it. So when that time comes, and you get the chance to walk away, do it tactfully and keep your head up. 

16. Know when to keep quiet. 
There are some things that just won't need your two cents. If you don't have a little bit of knowledge about the subject at hand, it may be best to not say anything about it. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. 

17. No one likes a complainer. 
There is next to nothing more annoying than listening to someone complain about everything. (Disclaimer: there is a difference between complaining and confiding). Don't complain about your hair or how much your parents nag you. People will listen to you but won't want to. 

18. If you love them, tell them. 
You may not always get a second chance to tell someone you love them. So if you know you love them, tell them as often as possible. More importantly, show them! Do everything in love. Always. You never know when you can't prove it anymore. 

19. Class is always in style. 
When you're angry, happy, sad, whatever you're feeling, show it with grace. Do what you need to do tactfully. If you must give someone a piece of your mind, do it with a smile. Throw in a little bless your heart as well. 

20. When in doubt, smile. 
When you have no idea what is going on, just smile and wave. You'll look sweeter and no one will know that you're confused. Keep a gentle smile on your face as often as possible. Smile at everyone that you pass. You never know who's day you might make. 

1 comment:

  1. I am amazed at the wisdom you have at such a young age. God has been very good, and He is going to use you in a mighty way. I love you!